Slaying sheds light on domestic violence
Posted at: 06/21/2013 6:09 PM
By: Nikki Ibarra, KOB Eyewitness News 4
KOB Eyewitness News 4 learned neighbors called the cops three times on Joseph Bibiano and Desiree Schiffli, complaining the two were violent with each other.
Counselors with Domestic Violence Resource Center in Albuquerque, who deal with domestic violence, hope people can learn something from this tragic story. The counselors told KOB they never do interviews, but after seeing the confession on KOB Thursday night, they wanted to talk about the issue of domestic violence, one that takes the lives of thousands of people every year.
It was an emotional confession from a 19 year-old man, who said he accidently shot and killed his 18 year-old girlfriend, Desiree Schiffli.
KOB showed counselors with the Domestic Violence Resource Center the interview with Bibiano.
“I felt that, you know, another young couple who I did have compassion for both,” said Teresa Valencia with the center.
In New Mexico, 1 in 3 women are in a violent relationship. For men, it’s 1 out of 9.
“They’re sorry and they do everything they can to make up for it. And then soon after that cycle starts again, the jealousy, the control, the abuse and just a pattern that they get stuck in,” added Valencia. Those are just a couple of things people can look out for to see if they’re in a violent relationship.
But counselors said it takes a lot of courage for a victim to come forward and want the help.
“A lot of our clients will say that it’s not going to get bad. It’s going to get better and in 3 months, this relationship went from falling in love to now she’s gone,” said Valencia.