Updated: 03/24/2014 12:22 AM |
Created: 03/23/2014 10:40 PM
By: Caleb James, KOB Eyewitness News 4
Part of our news gathering process each day at KOB Eyewitness News 4 is going to the courthouses and reviewing police reports.
What we found this weekend was disturbing:
Three different men are separately accused of abusing their partners in particularly violent ways.
Sunday, a survivor of domestic violence says the real story is not what the men did, it is what their victims did afterward; they called for help.
"I didn't," said Racheal Sweeney. "I didn't go to anybody for a long time."
It has been a decade since Sweeney finally left the constant abuse of her first marriage.
"It wasn't until things got super bad where I was like, 'now, okay I'm not going to do this anymore'," Sweeney said. "I'm going to get help.'"
When Sweeney thinks about the women behind the three men arrested over the weekend for domestic violence, she sees herself.
"I was one of them," she said.
But with that in mind, she says it is important for everyone to understand -- something good happened this weekend.
"They picked up the phone, and they called for help," she said.
According to Albuquerque Police Department reports, the girlfriend of Angel Alderete told police he locked her up and denied her food and water. When she complained he said he would, "...feed her teeth soup."
Samuel Parker's girlfriend told cops he, "...accused her of leaving him for another man..." before he, "...drove his knee into her left thigh several times while yelling at her that there was another man."
The girlfriend of Cody Detinne told officers she was "... struck with his fists about 10 times."
All three men are charged with domestic-violence related crimes after their arrests this weekend.
"It's a good thing," said Sweeney. "I'm proud of these women for reporting this."
Sweeney was crowned Mrs. Global Nations in 2013, and she uses her platform to find a solution to abuse.
She said the ultimate solution was at play over the weekend; brave survivors stood up.
To say "enough."
"They took that first step," she said. "They took that first step to say, 'no.'"
This weekend was unusual -- so often abuse goes unreported.
If you are in a violent situation, KOB wants you to look at this weekend as empowerment -- if you are in danger, and you speak out, there is help, and you do have a voice.
The New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence compiles a list of resources for victims and survivors of abuse across the state. That list can be found here:
Within Albuquerque, the Domestic Violence Resource Center is a place for victims to start:
Sweeney works closely with the Albuquerque S.A.F.E. House -- a shelter for victims of domestic violence:
At UNM, the Women's Resource Center has also compiled a list of resources for victims of domestic violence: