Fathers getting more involved in children's lives

Created: 06/13/2014 8:49 AM
By: Nicole Brady, KOB Eyewitness News 4

While it may have taken awhile to realize it, nowadays there's little question about the importance of fathers.

With more dads staying home and sharing parental responsibilities, more men are saying they need support too.

It's a weekday morning at the park, and Howie Kaibel is with other dads manning the swings. "I would go to Summit Park in the middle of the day and it would be filled with dads. So much so that I started a journal of how many dads I was seeing out there," Kaibel said.

Howie Kaibel isn’t the only dad writing about their experiences. Don Jackson is behind the blog Daddy Newbie, chronicling the highs and lows of parenting. He started it when he became a father at the age of 38. "I am a three-time cancer survivor, so I decided to write a blog basically as a diary for my son, because I wasn't sure I was going to see his whole journey," Jackson said.

What began as a journal for his son became Don's full time job, allowing him to stay home with now 3-year-old Gavin.

Connecting with other dads online led to another job: Contributing stories for a new book, "Dads Behaving Dadly." It's about modern fatherhood. "It's being scared out of your wits most days, but at the same time being very conscious of your role in your child's life," Jackson said.

It's a role that's evolving. The new definition of fatherhood comes with even more responsibility.

Moms have long had their circles to share tips and vent, and now dads need those outlets too. That's why Don just started the ABQ Dads Group this month. Dads say it’s helping them connect.

"I feel like we've been able to share with each other a lot of parenting tips, and also to be candid, just vent the frustrations with one another," Tommy Hernandez said.

"I think it's great that the dads can get together and spend time with their kids, and give moms some time to themselves," Greg Jenkins said.

"If you can get out once every two weeks with your kids and other dads, it can be really fulfilling and you can learn a lot," Kaibel said.

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